What if your body image issues come from your won parents? I'm generalizing, but it's really common for Asian cultures for the parents to mention weight during a lecture or conversation. I'm not overweight, 5'7'' and 145 pounds, but my mother especially insists that I am far too big for an Asian girl. This isn't subtle, I hear about it multiple times a day when I'm home. I'm definitely not comfortable in my body. My parents have been really supportive my whole life, so it's hard to just ignore.
Parents are as subtle as jackhammers, aren’t they?
First off, I try to think of parents as constantly giving you gifts that are wrapped in some real fucked up wrapping paper. What your parents mean is that they love you and they want you to be healthy and happy, and they are wrapping it in judgment paper. They have some old-fashioned ideas about how happiness comes, and they want you to conform to those ideas. It’s your job, as a kid, to unwrap that gift, throw away the wrapping paper, and decide how to use the gift. You get to decide what’s healthy for you. They raised you to be able to make those decisions.
In short, fuck em when it comes to this. You don’t listen to their preferences on the music you should listen to, so why should you listen to their preferences on how you look? It’s no different than a kid dyeing her hair and her parents saying “You look better with regular-colored hair”. It’s a judgment, sure, but it’s a judgment from a weird, antiquated, parent place. They are still supportive, they’re just a bit misguided.
When you’re a child, your self-esteem comes from your parents, because that’s all you know. When you’re a school-aged kid, your self-esteem starts to come from your friends, because that whole world is new to you and incredibly intoxicating. But when you’re an adult, your self-esteem comes from a combination of how you feel when you look in the mirror/your love life/your work satisfaction/doing things for other people/friendships.
You seem like you have a good head on your shoulders and you know who you are. You just need to learn to turn your parents’ voices down a bit for yourself.